New Eminem and Rihanna Song - Love the Way You Lie

When I first heard "Love the way you lie" I was shocked to hear Eminem rapping / collaborating with Rihanna. The lyrics are powerful and today when I saw the video for the first time I was overwhelmed.

It's a controversial video - some claim it glorifies domestic abuse, maybe so - but for me it is a powerful message of how the good can go bad and once it does there is no escape, just repetition. I have witnessed VERY close friends experience this cycle and it pains me to know so many women allow it to continue over and over.

Dominic Monaghan and Megan Fox star in the video that showcases the downward spiral and repitious pattern domestic abuse too often takes.

Nilva said the video is especially potent because of Eminem's and Rihanna's personal histories with violence or abuse. "Eminem's history is ...as someone who sings a lot about violence," she said. "And Rihanna's experience [is] as someone who was abused by Chris Brown."

That history, she added, is what will make people look at the video and see "that the message is not 'Don't you want a relationship like mine?' The message is a warning sign."

During the four-minute span of "Love The Way You Lie," Rihanna alternately sneers in the frame and seems to physically diminish before finally crumbling to the ground in front of the burning house that serves as her backdrop throughout. The images may be melodramatic but symbolically, they are accurate, according to Nilva. "Someone who is victimized in a relationship does become smaller, does lose their power and their strength."

"I think we tried as hard as we could to not glorify the violence, to try and explain that this was a relationship that is by no means ideal and a relationship that probably should have ended a lot sooner than it did," Monaghan told MTV News recently. "The concept of 'Love the Way You Lie' was essentially a look at the relationship that Eminem was in with his wife, Kim, so I kind of felt like I was playing Eminem a little bit, and Megan Fox was kind of playing Kim.

"It's the story of them getting to know each other, and it's the story of their tumultuous relationship, and it was the story of the breakdown of their relationship," he continued. "Ultimately, what I think he's trying to say in the song ... is that he should have walked away a little bit quicker than he did and not let it get as messy as it did."

Personally, I can see how some may view it as glorification of domestic abuse since it stars two hot young actors with a lot of passion, however, the message they try to convey is strong and with discussion, young viewers will realize this is NOT a life to live and not acceptable behaviour... sadly, by the time relationships get to this stage, it is difficult to break free, as shown in the video and as witnessed and experienced by many people I know.

Here is the video if you haven't seen it:




Here are the lyrics if you need them:

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

I can't tell you what it really is
I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now there's a steel knife
In my windpipe
I can't breathe
But I still fight
While I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right
It's like I'm in flight
High of a love
Drunk from the hate
It's like I'm huffing paint
And I love it the more that I suffer
I sufficate
And right before im about to drown
She resuscitates me
She fucking hates me
And I love it
Wait
Where you going
I'm leaving you
No you ain't
Come back
We're running right back
Here we go again
It's so insane
Cause when it's going good
It's going great
I'm Superman
With the wind in his bag
She's Lois Lane
But when it's bad
It's awful
I feel so ashamed
I snap
Who's that dude
I don't even know his name
I laid hands on her
I'll never stoop so low again
I guess I don't know my own strength

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

You ever love somebody so much
You can barely breathe
When you're with them
You meet
And neither one of you
Even know what hit 'em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah them chills
Used to get 'em
Now you're getting fucking sick
Of looking at 'em
You swore you've never hit 'em
Never do nothing to hurt 'em
Now you're in each other's face
Spewing venom
And these words
When you spit 'em
You push
Pull each other's hair
Scratch, claw, bit 'em
Throw 'em down


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The Never-Ending Sickness

When I was a little girl I would get colds that would always lead to bronchitis. A common cold would cause me to bark like a dog with every cough. It always sounded so much worse than it was and the doctors always loaded me up with medicine until I was healthy again.

As an adult, not much changed, I was diagnosed with asthma which was believed to be the cause of my bark-l;ike coughs that accompanied every illness I encountered.

More recently, I was diagnosed wtih "seasonal allergies" which made the bark-like coughing even more horrific as I'd also have a congested head and frequently no available airway during a coughing fit.

I've tried so many different inhalers, pills, breathing treatments, it's frustrating nothing works.

I have been sick for over a month now, though only the last week and a half have been really bad.

I am sick fo being sick.

The stuffiness, the draining, the congestion, the pain, the aches, the tightness, the sleepless nights, the exhausted body, headaches, inability to eat, inability to breathe, I am so done with it...

I want a cure.

I heard on the radio about bio-energy healing and though I am not a huge believer in all the holistic healing methods that exsist, but I am to the point where I would consider trying anything.

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The basis is bang-on... stress gets you stuck and prevents your body from recovering promptly from illness. I know I have a horrible immune system as evident by the length of time I remain sick.

I also know that having pre-exsisting conditions (asthma and allergies) I get far MORE sick when I would usually just get a little bit sick.

Furthermore, I work with a lot of people and children who are basically disease carrying bodies spreading their germs to me.

Lastly, I take on far too much which meand I am usually stressed, busy and NOT resting... not a good equation for staying healthy.

So this combination of getting sick worse than average, longer than average, more often than average and basically having "being sick" as part of my regular lifestyle is not cool!

I need a change.

Any suggestions I am open too - leave a comment or email me !

Misconceptions about teenagers

So... I remember, as a teen, I volunteered in my community, ran events for youth, was a total youth advocate... yet still, I would walk into a 7-11 for a slurpee and get glared at, followed and was assumed to be "trouble."

Granted, I was trouble, but not the kind of trouble the 7-11 cashier suspected.... I was carefree and had no "adult supervision" to adhere to.

See, I moved out when I was still in highschool.

I made my own rules and did what I wanted when i wanted.... the only down side was that my rommie and I were polar opposites.

We were friends, but the only thing we really had in common, besides the ability to get excellent grades without any effort, was that we couldn't live at home anymore and had part time jobs (which we could manage because of our ability to pull in top marks without studying) that would allow us to (barely) survive on our own.

I recall, we had a one bedroom basement suite with avodaco coloured appliances. The walls were this fibery unfinished plywood that were apparently really cool to gaze at while high on acid (so said the roomie)

but, don't get it twisted, she was not the wild one, besides her occasional drug induced trips, she had a steady, long-term boyfriend.... her job... her stuffed animals... and she set up "her room" in half of our pretty large living room.

I got the bedroom, small, but private...

it was a stupid mistake... she had the boyfriend and should have had the privacy of her own bedroom... I had the parties and should have had the openess of the living room, but we chose how we chose.

After too many parties with my friends doing nasty things to her stuffed animals and too many nights of not being able to use my kitchen (which you had to walk through the living room to get to) because the "love birds" were "busy" we realized we couldn't handle being roomates.

We moved on.

We both graduated.

We remained friends.

To this day.

But - oh the teenaged years....

wild, crazy, and even more unusual for me having moved out so young....

everyone else lived with their parents, so coming to my place to party was "the" weekend (and weekday) activity....

I remember one morning after partying a little too hard the night before our vice principal was knocking at our door... yes! We slept through it but got the note on our door and were worried of what he may have seen if he peaked through the windows... oh my!

Again, we still pulled in decent grades, even if we were rarely in class...

Crazy Eh?

We even took in this other girl younger than us who needed a place to stay - though that was short-lived and deffo a story for another day.

Moving Out... Partying Hard.... as a Teen...

I wouldn't advise it....

Now, as an adult, I wonder if my opinions have changed...

Would I let my child move out that young?

No!

Have i become the glaring, suspicious, annoyed adult that can't tolerate teens?

Sometimes.

Let's face it.

They think they know everything (as did I at that age) and are often inconsiderate, rude, cocky and annoying.

Too many of them are given everything they want on a damned silver platter and have no respect for or knowledge of the real world. No work ethic, no manners... they're just punks!

It's hard - being the adult now... looking back at the life I lived.... I often don't even think of myelf as a "real" adult... I mean, I still feel the same... though a lot more experienced and less skinny ;)

I guess because I moved out as a teen, I always had that "responsibility" of bills and housework... yet still managed to keep up with school, work, and partying with friends...

So, as an adult now, i can juggle a lot... I work, am a mom, a wife, and still do a lot of stuff for fun!

So, why can't teens have fun and be themselves without adults assuming they are irresonsible?

I don't assume every teenager is up to trouble, though I do assume they have the possibility to be amazing adults and always hope for the best.

I recall how I felt at that age about adults and try not to be "that" kind of adult.... I try to assume the best about all people until given reason otherwise.

But when that reason comes - watch out!

And too many teens give good teens a bad name... the inconsiderate, rude, cocky and annoying teens...

I just tell them to fuck off!